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EP 51: DATING IN THE 90’s | Sandra Hatton

EP 51: DATING IN THE 90’s | Sandra Hatton

June 8, 2021

YOU GO GIRLFRIEND!!!  We're throwin' it back to the 90's in honor of my birthday this month and the 30th anniversary of It's Just Lunch, a multi-national matchmaking agency founded in 1991 by a busy, professional woman who wanted to make it easier for professionals to date.

So, what was working with a matchmaking agency even like in 1991 when the internet was a baby?  I talk with VP of Sales Sandra Hatton to discuss the biggest thing that has shifted in our culture of dating in thirty years:  verification.  Dating has gone from someone you know (or who knows the person you want to know) to a field of strangers.  And alllll the behaviors that now come with that reality.

Stay tuned till the end where Sandra and I play a game called Dating in 2020 or 2000? .... and Sandra fails epically.

Learn more about It's Just Lunch here!

EP 50: JET SET DATING

EP 50: JET SET DATING

May 26, 2021
You know that cliche Hallmark fairy tale story where the big, successful city girl goes home to her parents house in small town America for a short time and she falls in love with the unexpectedly hot single guy that runs the bike or handyman shop and she has to decide between returning to her (lonely) big city life or return to her roots in this small suburban town?  Know anyone that happened to in the pandemic?
 
Yeah, neither do we.  Our guest Zofia (and many others) went home and simply took a break from dating altogether.  Why bother dating when you know you're gonna be leaving soon?  Why date in a country (or town) that you don't want to ultimately settle or live in?
 
Taking that a step further - if you don't want to date in the place that you're currently in, why not set your filters to only show you people from the place you want to live in the future? Zofia and I discuss whether or not that would actually work (on both sides) and the ethical consequences of that.  But what about the world where people are matching with people in other countries that they then have no intention of ever meeting?  And is there a difference in how men respond to this and where women stand on this?  We ask our VOP Renard to chime in, and his answer may (or may not) surprise you. :)
EP 49: FINDING FREEDOM IN (M)OTHERHOOD | Leisse Wilcox

EP 49: FINDING FREEDOM IN (M)OTHERHOOD | Leisse Wilcox

May 11, 2021
How do you process being single?  Do you feel frustrated, doubtful, even shamed?  In this episode with transformational mindset and relational coach Leisse Wilcox, we take a deep dive into where that shame comes from, whether it's internal or external, and what you can "do" (and not do) about it.
 
And since we celebrate Mother's Day this month and Leisse is a mother of three herself who also happens to be single, we approach the topic of "otherhood".... what happens to us when we fill or don't fill society's expectations of us to be mothers?
 
Listen in to Leisse's gorgeous guidance and words of encouragement as we navigate these tricky feelings... we promise you'll feel better on the other side.
 
Learn more about Leisse here!
Buy here book here!
Listen to her podcast here
EP 48:  PRINCIPLES OF POLY DATING

EP 48: PRINCIPLES OF POLY DATING

April 28, 2021
Have you been wanting #single to chat with a pansexual polyamorous/ ethical non-monogamist sober stand-up comedian?  Well, your prayers have been answered!!
 
Listen in as I chat with Lisa, a delightful gem of person, on all of the unique dynamics of polyamorous dating... on apps.... in a pandemic....including what exactly it takes to be in a healthy multiple partnership (spoiler: it's all about communication).
 
We also talk orgies and Lisa's genius new idea for a bi/ poly dating app... wait for it... it's called PANCE.. and we're here for it.  :)
EP 47: PLAYING WIHOUT A PARTNER | Dr. Megan Stubbs

EP 47: PLAYING WIHOUT A PARTNER | Dr. Megan Stubbs

April 13, 2021

There's a lot of books for single people about dating.  And a lot of sex books that are written for couples.  Sooo..... why aren't there any sex books specifically written for single people?

Enter Dr. Megan Stubbs, aka the "single sexologist," whose soon-to-be released book, "Playing Without a Partner," was written just for us on the topics of confidence, contentedness, fulfillment, and yes, sex in singledom.

What's it really mean to be alone?  How can this time be beneficial instead of detrimental?  How can we live whole, full lives, experiencing all life has to offer as single people?

These answers PLUS fun sex facts you never knew you wanted to know about, like things that don't mix well with semen, and cum that tastes like... bleach??? Uhhhh....

All this and more, hope you enjoy! :)

Learn more about Dr. Megan here.

Buy Megan's book!

 

EP 46: THAT POWER DYNAMIC

EP 46: THAT POWER DYNAMIC

March 30, 2021
You've dated a douchebag.  Right? We all have.  There's no avoiding it.  There seems to be a plethora of dbs out there in the single world, especially in this crazy time of Covid.  
 
if y'all thought dating in New York is bad.... we clearly had no idea what we weren't missing until I started talking to Mona, a badass comedian living and dating in LA who has got dating stories that will blow your mind.  It's one thing to try and date people in the entertainment industry who are just trying to use you to grow their following or ask you for a referral.. but it's another thing altogether if you're a female comic.  Cause if there's one thing that intimidates guys, we've learned it's a woman who unapologetically speaks her mind.  And if she can make people laugh?  Forget about it.  She's unstoppable.  
 
Shout out to Who Haha for connecting me with Mona and her friend Jonathan.  We had the best time laughing and educating ourselves about all sorts of sex terminology.  Plus, Mona has got a dating story for the ages guaranteed to give you goosebumps...you don't want to miss this episode!
EP 45: SINGLE IS THE NEW BLACK | Dr. Karin Anderson Abrell

EP 45: SINGLE IS THE NEW BLACK | Dr. Karin Anderson Abrell

March 10, 2021

Let's talk about single shaming. 

Chances are, you're been victim to it at least once in your life.  You've been told, directly or indirectly, that since you're clearly so fabulous and still single, that you simply must be doing something wrong!  You're too picky.  Or you're too thin.  Or too loud.  Or too desperate.  The list goes on and on.

And who are the people most likely to be using this disparaging language on us?  Our friends.  Our family.  Even our own mothers.  

To be fair, it's not really their fault.  They have been indoctrinated for decades with society's belief that a woman's worth is determined by her relationship status.  But Dr. Karin and I are not havin that, and we take a super deep dive discussing all this and more from her acclaimed book, "Single is the New Black: Don't Wear White 'Til It's Right," as well as her experiences from her background as a psychology professor for ten years in Chicago, as well as from her time being an accomplished (yet single) woman in her late 30's. 

It's a super juicy episode so buckle up and put on your women's empowerment body armor for this excellent episode helping us celebrate International Women's History Month!

Learn more about Dr. Karin here.

Work with Dr. Karin here.

Follow Dr. Karin @dr.karin on IG for all sorts of love, fabulous conversation, and advice!

EP 44: DATING AMNESIA

EP 44: DATING AMNESIA

February 24, 2021
Ever had that thing where you're chatting with someone on a dating app and it all starts to feel a little.... familiar??  I'll be the first to admit that I've started conversations with people I unmatched previously without fully realizing it at first, but unlike my guest Robin I'll eventually let the guy know what's up.  Robin however, likes to see "how far she can take it" lol before a guy will figure it out and sometimes.... spoiler!... they never do!! This has led her to have some seriously weird dating situations.
 
Do men have dating match amnesia when it comes to swiping?  Our VOP Jason weighs in on this and more, as we trade perspectives on what women look for in a dating app versus what men look for, and we FINALLY get answers as to why dudes send  dick pics.  
 
I leave Robin and Jason with a challenge: they have to take the other person's suggestions for changes to their profile and keep them in place for thirty days.  Can't wait to see what happens!
EP 43: THE INTERSECTION OF FEMINISM + DATING | Teresa Thomas, M.S.

EP 43: THE INTERSECTION OF FEMINISM + DATING | Teresa Thomas, M.S.

February 10, 2021

Have you ever struggled with reconciling the equality you want in a relationship and the empowerment you have in your life with dating online? 

.... Okay - that sentence might have just blown your mind a little bit.  But in this episode I'm joined by life & relationship coach Teresa Thomas, M.S, who's here to tell us that the way we identify ourselves and the things we want don't have to be mutually exclusive.  As a person who identifies as a Black feminist, she understands that society can often make you choose between your identities and your desires, but dating can be inclusionary and can uphold your individuality... if you make space for it and know how to look for what you want.

This episode is chock full of such beautiful inspirational wisdom and it's our honor to have Theresa as our guest for Black History Month... yeah that's right, we chose to celebrate Black History Month over Valentine's Day on #single and we couldn't be happier about it. 

Put on your big girl panties, it's time to get your feminism on!

Learn more about Teresa here.

Work with Teresa here.

EP 42: DATING HALF YOUR AGE PLUS SEVEN

EP 42: DATING HALF YOUR AGE PLUS SEVEN

January 27, 2021
Be honest:  what's your age on your dating profile?  Now, be even more honest: what's the age range you're looking for?  Is it your own age, plus or minus five years, or are you consistently looking for people younger than you?
 
My 1:1 guest this month, Grace, has an amazing range she's open to - guys ten years younger AND guys ten years older... which means she can potentially match with guys in their late 20's or even in their 50's, and you'd be surprised how much the kinds of dates differ between the two.  
 
If Grace's voice sounds familiar to you, it's because she's been on #single before - last January Grace joined us as a Guest Expert!  Grace is a fantastic online dating specialist and coach at agoodfirstdate.com, and she's also single, so as a coach she really gets what it's like to be out there swiping in COVID and she shares some of her own insights from dating virtually in 2020 in this episode  
 
Aaaaannddd... drumroll please!  Grace has very kindly created a super special offer for #single listeners!  If you feel like you could benefit from some of Grace's wisdom you're in luck.  She's offering a FREE 30 min coaching session with her to the first five listeners - yes, you read that right, so hurry up and respond ASAP using this link: bit.ly/singlepodcastGrace
 
We can't wait for you guys to connect - let us know how it goes!!
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